Dating emotionally unavailable guy
They may have suffered through a troubled childhood experience that has wounded them or they now have higher priorities such as their career or taking care of a sick parent.
Perhaps, they are recently divorced or widowed, and legitimately not ready to get involved in an intimate relationship.
It means he’s not serious about falling in love at this point.
“Now the fact that we are emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean that we’re no longer desirous of a woman’s attention and affection.
At this point, all he wants is to forget his ex, or even worse, replicate her. He is not pulling his own weight in this relationship.
So he could be looking for a woman who is practically her doppelganger, in a desperate (but not conscious effort) to bring her back somehow. I hate to break it to you, but this is a man who is absolutely hiding something. If he can’t bring himself to call you his girlfriend, then you’re not. Before you jump to say yes, think about it for a second – was he at your grandma’s funeral? He is not there for you at all, for anything you need, big or small.
It also doesn’t mean we’ve lost the ability to perceive attractiveness and beauty and it most definitely doesn’t mean we’re no longer interested in sex.
We will want all of those things, and we’re still going to work toward getting all of those things. Maybe it was our overt actions (not claiming you as a girlfriend). Maybe it was our actual words (I’m not looking for anything serious right now), but you didn’t pay attention.
Although there are many who attempt to tear down the walls in an effort to win the heart of their emotionally unavailable love interest, most fail and wind up with their hearts broken in the process.
Then, they suddenly show up and it’s all hot again. I can tell you from years of seeing women have this issue, that if he cheats you. Believe me, jumping on seemingly unavailable men with a muddy or newly changed relationship status is never good news.
It sucks to be in that position, so don’t do that to another woman or to yourself. After seeing countless numbers of break-ups, I should know. He was absent for every single one (or most) of those things?
Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...
you're not going to believe this, but I just met the man of my dreams! How did they miss the obvious warning signs before they became intimate and gave their heart away? " or "He wants the same thing I want: to settle down and have children.") For those of us who've been in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person, we know the pain of not being able to get close to the person we love.Then, there are those who are too afraid of taking the risk of falling in love because they have been hurt too much in their previous relationships.